“Conflict Resolution for Couples” is written in a comprehensive and logical progression that maps out how to have a healthy relationship, one where conflict can be readily managed. It has solid answers for couples trying to find reasonable solutions.
This 10th Anniversary Edition discusses the following topics:
– the basics of a healthy relationship
– a model for managing conflict
– 26 guidelines for conflict resolution
– making and maintaining lasting changes
– affair-proofing and affair-recovery
– considering or moving through a separation
The most recent edition of this book, the 10th Anniversary Edition, also titled “the Complete Edition”, is dated 9/30/2015.
“Conflict Resolution for Christian Couples” is written in a comprehensive, easy-to-understand, and logical progression that maps out how to have a healthy relationship – one where conflict can be readily managed. The book has solid answers and strategies for Christian couples having difficulties working out reasonable solutions.
This book consists of four parts.
– Part I is about establishing a spiritually healthy foundation for the relationship: 1) knowing the basics of Biblical knowledge, prayer, fellowship and ministry, and 2) taking into account the spiritual world, and respecting the balance between grace and accountability.
– Part II details a useful conflict resolution model and itemizes 26 effective tools (the ABC’s) for moving smoothly through issues.
– Part III provides a 3-part solution model for mapping out a plan for change, and discusses healthy routines for maintaining change.
– Part IV addresses two unique dilemmas for long-term relationships: 1) affair recovery or affair safe-guarding, and 2) considering or going through a marital separation.
The most recent edition of this book is dated 11/17/2015.
The Top 10 Marriage Essentials is a reflection of the couple’s work that Paul has done over his long career as a professional counselor. Moving past his three books on couple’s conflict resolution, “Marriage Essentials” addresses the top 10 recurring relationship issues he has encountered over the course of his work, discussing both the problem and the solutions. Each chapter in the book is committed to one of the ten “essentials”:
– realistic role expectations
– creating true intimacy
– keeping the marriage as a priority
– maintaining healthy boundaries
– fostering respectful behavior
– practicing validation
– exercising loving accountability
– embracing forgiveness
– differing perceptions of reality
– working towards a healthy, balanced you.
The updated edition of this book is dated 3/7/2016.
The “Just the Tools” edition of “Conflict Resolution for Couples” is an abbreviated version of Paul Shaffer’s first book, “Conflict Resolution for Couples” – originally published in 2005, and recently re-released in 2015 (the “Complete Edition”). This leaner edition “cuts to the chase” of couple’s conflict resolution, without the foundational and special population sections that made the original book a much meatier but intimidating work. “Just the Tools”, while a stand-alone title, also serves as a companion book to either Paul’s the “Top 10 Marriage Essentials” or the “Top 10 Dating Essentials”. It retains the same comprehensive, easy-to-understand, and logical progression found in the original.
This book consists of essentially two parts:
Part I is about the tools for resolution. It presents a model for managing conflict and itemizes 26 guidelines (the ABC’s of conflict resolution) for identifying, validating, processing and resolving issues.
Part II discusses strategies for change. It focuses on initiating and maintaining change, understanding lack of change, and healthy routines to support lasting change.
“The Top 10 Dating Essentials” isn’t a book about how to manipulate potential partners into dating you, nor is it about social etiquette on a date. It’s about knowing what’s important to look for in a partner, what makes a relationship work, and what you need to be working on with yourself.
Paul’s “Dating Essentials” addresses what every dater should know about dating. The ten “essentials” details:
– Knowing what “healthy” actually looks like
– Moving past your own past
– Understanding your partner’s “type”
– Recognizing manipulation
– Mythologies of dating
– Knowing what to judge
– How to handle conflict
– Knowing healthy boundaries
– Respecting the time for transitions
– What true intimacy looks like
The updated edition of this book is dated 1/15/2016.